November 5, 2007
Are women more competitive than men?
A while ago I was surprised to realise that although men are biologially predisposed to seek challenges as part of expressing their masculine nature and do therefore compete naturally, women have a much deeper and more hidden predisposition to compete amongst eachother.
Whilst for men competing can be playful and part of a game, that in fact creates a sense of belonging and companionship amongst a group of men, women are often competing on a deep level of the psyche which can almost feel like a life or death situation to them.
Have you ever watched a radiant, vibrant, feminine and open-hearted women entering a room, and although there was no energy of competition or ego coming from her, which might have served as a feable excuse for judgement, you still felt a deep seated almost physical sense of unfounded fear or pain. I noticed these feelings in myself and became puzzled as I believed myself to feel increasing love and appreciation for women.
Our feminine nature contains many facets, some of which we are consciously aware of, and others that are still deeply buried in our psyche but can strongly influence us. We are at times happier to focus on our nurturing, loving and connecting female sides than becoming aware and accepting our inherently fiercely protective and competitive aspects.
To embody the complexity of our feminine essence, we want to allow all our facets to consciously come to the forefront. This will help us to evolve as women and let go off old patterns that are no longer truly serving us.
At the beginning of human evolution the harsh environment made it a necessity for physical survival to divide roles acording to biological gender differences into nurturing and nestbuilding for women and hunting and fighting for men. Women were dependent on men for their physical survival and were necessarily competing amongst eachother for the attention of strong men who could protect them.
We no longer live in times like these, but on a deep level a lot of us still feel dependent on a men for physical or emotional survival. Some of us might feel that we need a man to provide financially for us for example.
So for a lot of us competing with other women for male attention has been a life-long practice and subconscious habit, which we believed to be essential for our survival and as such never questioned in its validity. Becoming aware of any obsolete patterns within us and accepting all aspects of our psyche, including the feelings that these realisations might bring up, are the first and vital steps in becoming more whole as women.
These days I am getting better witnessing my reactions to any woman, regardless of her own energy. I take a moment to become aware of any feelings and welcome them all, however tempting it might be to judge myself. Noticing any obsolete fears, I am kinder to myself and remind myself that I am love and that I am no longer dependent on any man or other being for my physical survival. I bless my inner wild woman and send love and appreciation to the beautiful woman who reminded me of these blessings.
With love and highest regards,
Susanne
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