Thank you for allowing me to share universal ways to re-connect with The Divine Feminine.

As a woman you bring unique feminine gifts to our world. But are we preventing ourselves from offering these gifts? When women ask me what they need to do to become more feminine my initial response is: “Nothing! There is no secret to Unleash your inner Goddess- or to be truly feminine. There is nothing specific to DO!”

We each have both the feminine and masculine energy within us, but most women are naturally feminine in their core energy. This means that the feminine will be our healthy energetic resting place. We are however often spending most of our time in our “animated masculine” energy. If our home or work place is predominantly masculine we might feel more valued, safer and less exposed when we act like one of the boys. When I worked in the City I often felt as if I had to shut off my heart and body to get by. After a day at work it can then be a matter of habit to stay in a more masculine energy. This is however likely to negatively affect our health and neutralize sexual polarity and attraction in our intimate relationships.

Suppressing our emotions, overly competing and overvaluing left brain thinking instead of trusting our intuition might have become so deeply entrenched that we are no longer aware that they are often not expressions of our true self but mere behavioral and energetic choices at any given moment. Often women have never been consciously in touch with or don’t remember their own unique expression of feminine energy.

For our physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing and growth as women we want to consciously remember to relax more often into our natural feminine essence especially with our romantic partners. This will not only be rewarded with increased vitality, radiance and more fulfilling intimacy, but also lead to growing clarity in recognizing our individual feminine gifts. Remembering and nurturing our feminine essence has never been more important to heal ourselves and our world.

So what are examples of how we can feed our feminine soul? Below are universal ways to re-connect with our Divine Feminine, our highest expression of embodied feminine energy. Instead of looking at them as another “To Do” list, let’s welcome them as “To Be” choices. We will quickly sense which ones resonate the most with our individual expression of the feminine.

1.      Being in Silence
Talking is an active “Yang” activity and although women can be great communicators we sometimes wear ourselves out by talking too much. This can be especially the case if you are in a role that involves a lot of teaching or public speaking. Designating a time during the day when we remain in silence and do not answer phone calls or communicate verbally will bring relief and can be a surprisingly pleasant experience. If this is not possible during the week you might clear half a day or a day on the weekend, or indulge in a complete weekend spent in solitude and silence. Silence will deepen our connection with the divine feminine and allow deeper intuitive wisdom and self-awareness to surface.

2.      Resting
It is not a sign of weakness to be tired. It can however be a sign of our body telling us that we have been neglecting our feminine side for too long. A lot of us have been frenzied and pushing ourselves for so long that we might simply need to catch up with a lot of rest because we have been drained on a very deep level. I once attended a retreat especially for women by a female Taoist master where we were mostly sleeping, being silent or dancing freely. It was wonderful. So let’s have a good night’s sleep, fit in a nap, and don’t set the alarm on the weekend.

3.      Being in Nature
Smell the earth. Touch the breeze. Gaze at a sunset and listen to a lake. Commune with nature in any way you instinctively feel like and experience it as part of your being. The Divine Feminine is at home in nature and any time spent outdoors, near trees or in the grounds of either a park or the countryside helps us to refuel our feminine energy. Taking off our shoes and walking barefoot will nurture our connection with the earth and additionally help us to ground ourselves.

4.      Enjoying Sensuality and Being in our Body
Feel your body and the pleasure of being alive. Take a deep breath. Relax. Enjoy any sensual or physically pleasurable experience. Basically do anything with your body. It can be as simple as breathing deeply into your belly, swaying your hips or savoring a delicious meal or drink. Our vitality and radiance as women directly depends on our relationship with sensuality and the quality of our intimacy. Healing our sexuality, clearing blockages and learning to feel good in our bodies with or without a partner is therefore vital. Exploring self-pleasuring free from guilt can be part of a natural expression of self-love whether we are in a relationship or not. Sensuality is one of our true feminine gifts to ourselves and others.

5.      Enjoying Creativity
Sometimes we say: “I am not creative”. Our intrinsic nature is creative. Being creative is not the same as being artistic although one does not exclude the other. The characteristics of creativity involve thinking or behaving imaginatively and with a purpose, generating something original and of value in relation to our objective. We can be creative in decorating our home, planning a romantic time with our partner or organizing our kid’s birthday party. Let’s indulge in creativity and allow our imagination to flow freely outside of logical reasoning more often. It will help to balance our left brain oriented life-styles and open us more to our intuition.

6.      Gathering with Female Friends
Being in the company of other feminine energy is a great way to nurture our own. I always feel energized after an evening of giggles and flowing exchange. Meet up for chats, nurturing meals, girly movies, slow walks, window shopping or any opportunity to simply relax and be spontaneous. Avoid rigid schedules, allow plenty of time and keep things as open as possible. You could also schedule a spa break with a close friend or group of friends and set your intentions to honor the feminine in each other.

7.      Feminine Dancing
Dancing in feminine ways like belly dancing, temple dancing or simply following our body’s movements freely to an enchanting tune at home can really bring us into our body and sensual side. It energizes us, can heal physical and emotional blockages and is a healthy form of exercise for women. If we join a feminine dance class it also allows us to be in the presence of other women and enjoy each others company in a safe and accepting space.

8.      Music/Singing/Chanting/Freeing our voice
Listening to beautiful music can open your right brain and evoke feelings of happiness and contentment. By singing along to our favorite song, chanting a sacred mantra or attending a class to free our voice we are using our bodies to raise our own vibration and energize ourselves. There are no rights and wrongs and Karaoke with your daughter can be just as nurturing as chanting in Sanskrit.

9.      Meditation/Mindfulness/Opening to intuition
Meditation is commonly misunderstood as yet another task or necessary routine to fit into our day. Creating a regular habit of sitting down to meditate is only one way and can benefit some of us, while others choose to be in a “meditative” state at different stages throughout the day by being more aware, stilling their minds, focusing fully on what they are doing right in the moment or listening to their inner wisdom and intuition.

10.   Receiving a Massage
A professional massage can benefit you in many ways as a women. We are in the receptive mode which nurtures our feminine side. It is relaxing and a physically pleasant experience which is sensual without being sexual. It stimulates energy flow in our bodies and can energize us. It is also an opportunity to let our thoughts wander, catch up with rest or still our mind. At times a massage will also help to release emotional blockages, in which case we might feel tearful afterwards. This is a healthy clearing out and we will feel much better soon. My favorites are Ayurvedic massages and hot stone massages. Treat yourself!

11. Open your Heart to Universal Love and Life itself

Make a conscious choice to keep opening your heart and fully enjoy the flow of love in your life. Practice giving and receiving love regardless of your mood or circumstances with your friends and family. If a relative makes a cynical or judgemental comment I remind myself that I still feel love for them and that they mean more than just their behavior to me. Allow your heart to expand continuously. Next time you are waiting in a queue at the post office use the time to send good wishes and love to someone else who might need it. Let’s choose to open more fully to love and life every day, until we become a living, divine expression of it.

Every woman’s journey of remembering and offering her highest feminine gifts is unique but it is inextricably linked to enjoying her body and opening her heart fully. So let’s allow ourselves to feel and rest in our feminine and experience true joy in our hearts and bodies.