Are you dreaming of a deeply fulfilling love with your true romantic and spiritual partner?

Thank you for allowing me to share with you what really worked to overcome life as a single mum, attract my other half and create Divine Love.

The 7 Keys to Divine Love

Years ago I was a divorcee and single mum wondering where it had all gone wrong. Today I am married to my twin flame (true spiritual and romantic partner) and grateful for our ever deepening love. The good news is that whatever took me from my past to my current reality had nothing to do with luck and I love to share with you how you too can create true love and avoid the most common mistakes on the way!

The 7 basic elements to attracting and living in Higher Love with our twin flame – our true other half (commonly known as soul mate) are:

1. We commit to the highest Love

2. We become clear about our desires in Love

3. We take positive action towards Love

4. We expect and feel Love

5. We open to the flow of Love within

6. We feel grateful and loving

7. We celebrate all expressions of Love

Deepak Chopra says: ”In the Nature of Desire lies the Seed for it’s Fulfillment”. The very fact that we desire something means the universe has already reserved it for us. Not everyone wants the same. If we have a deep longing to experience true love it’s because we are getting ready to attract it or create it in our existing relationship. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. We do not need to be enlightened or meditate all day, but ask for what we want, feel worthy and trust. We live in a universe operating on energetic principles and true love will naturally manifest for us when we put out the matching energy ourselves. So how do the 7 Elements Work?

1. We commit to the highest Love:

As an eleven year old I wrote a twin soul poem titled “Passion” and later made a drawing of two trees that were joined by their trunks as if making love. From an early age I had an inner knowing that as humans we are destined to be with our true romantic and spiritual partner. I didn’t know why or how, but I never doubted that this was our birthright. When I realized as an adult that I had married the wrong man for the wrong reasons, this certainty helped me to make an unwavering commitment to not settle for anything less than my true other half. Anthony Robbins says: “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped”. Only six months after I left my husband I met my new husband Joseph through a series of magical coincidences. The same principles that apply for attracting your true love when you are single also work for taking your existing relationship to higher levels of love.

Most common mistake: Focusing on our fears

When we are single, after a relationship breakup or argument we often wish to avoid more pain and energetically shut down to protect ourselves. We need to make a conscious choice to keep our heart open despite any previous or potential future pain and focus instead on the experience we desire. Being with our twin soul will not protect us from experiencing pain or conflict but will ultimately lead us to an acceleration of personal growth and the highest levels of unconditional love. If we choose to stay open to it – we will experience a love that is the most fulfilling, freeing and intimate we will ever experience. Let’s commit to Divine Love by placing our right hand on our heart and saying to ourselves: “I forgive myself for being afraid and I commit to the Highest Love.”

2. We become clear about our desires in Love:

When I was single and longing for love, I intuitively wrote down a wish-list that came from my heart and soul describing what I was really looking for in my ideal Love. (An example of such a list is in my book “Kinetikus – The Story of a Divine Lover”) Everyone can do the same. Let’s take a little quiet and undisturbed time and allow ourselves to dream deeply and honestly about what we truly wish for and write it down. We can review and update our list to include new or more specific desires or take out those we no longer wish for. Committing ideas to paper is already a powerful step from taking the intangible to the tangible. If you are in a relationship write a list which firstly focusses on all the qualities, behaviour, actions etc. that you appreciate or love about your partner. Then from an appreciative perspective continue writing your list focussing on the qualities you would like to see growing in your partner whilst also acknowledging that they are already present. Write a positive statement like: I love when he shows me his affection and look forward to noticing and feeling his love even more.

Most common mistake: Ego Goals instead of Soul Needs

It’s important to go deep and not choose goals from the level of the ego. We can save a lot of time looking for the wrong partner or unnecessary qualities in our current partner like this. So we are not talking about eye-color or financial standing here. Let’s ask ourselves questions like what will our common values be? Authenticity? Sharing Divine Intimacy? How will it feel to give and receive love with our true spiritual and romantic partner or live in a place of Higher Love? What kind of love are we really longing for with our partner? There is no need to share your list with anybody unless you feel certain that they will react in a positive supportive way. For example in a playful and connected moment you might swap lists with your partner. We want to disregard any limiting beliefs and allow ourselves to be playful and excited about our list. Let's get really clear and be honest about our true deepest desires - it's a must!

3. We take positive action towards Love:

After my marriage breakup I was unhappy, unfit and overweight. I wanted to feel better about myself and be more attractive to my future soul mate. So I started to go jogging for only 10 minutes a couple of times a week and eventually entered a running challenge for a charity. Whether we are single or in a relationship we need to look at ourselves first and take full responsibility to become the person that our soulmate will want to be or grow deeper in love with.

Most common mistake: Overambitious goals

If it’s not relatively easy for us to, we won’t do it, or we will only do it once. It is better to take tiny baby steps all the way to our goals than giving up exhausted after one huge jump. Let’s be kind to ourselves and take small, manageable and continuous steps. Taking action is like a muscle. It will grow stronger and stronger. We can get into our right brain and ask our higher self what actions to take by playing high vibration music (like Deva Premal & Miten) whilst sitting comfortably and away from our usual desk. We want to write down our ideas freely, divide them into mini action-steps and do something that will bring us closer to our desires immediately! Let's take continuous positive and simple actions towards Divine Love!

4. We expect and feel Love

Remember how it felt to dream of receiving gifts or experiencing adventures as a child when anything felt possible? To experience coming pleasures in our mind and body are one of the best ways to draw them to us.

Most common mistake: Visualizing like a chore or from a low vibration.

Only dream or visualize when you are feeling quite good already and only imagine things that make you feel good. If we are in a low vibration or low on the emotional scale, for example if we are feeling desperate about anything, any visualization will have this energetic undertone and will attract only more lack. In that case let’s stop visualizing and focus on raising our vibration in other ways. For example simple physical exercise, choosing a more positive, happier thought or listening to higher vibration music. The trick is to gradually move up. Otherwise there is an energetic clash. It’s very difficult to jump from a very low to a very high vibration, but it’s possible to get better bit by bit until we feel we are ready to enjoy an inspiring visualization fully. Let’s dream with all our senses, feeling colors, textures, sounds and tastes. I imagined how it felt to be in an intimate embrace with my lover and to feel the flow of our love. We are always energetically connected to our twin soul and want to give ourselves permission to be moved to tears of joy in experiencing what is already ours. In an existing relationship we can dream vividly and in a positive expectancy how we see our new Higher Love relationship. Let's expect, see and FEEL the highest results in our imagination!

5. We open to the flow of Love within:

After my divorce I instinctively allowed myself to feel all sadness, anger and lack. It’s so important to honor our true feelings and fully feel them to clear a space for inviting new positive emotions and seeing the bigger picture.

Most common mistake: Suppressing strong emotions

Often we are scared of feeling strong emotions or loosing control. We might cry or express ourselves on paper, but emptying out completely is important. After I had cleared my emotions of lack and pain, I had a powerful realization. I understood that although I did not have a romantic partner, there had never been any shortage of love, but only an abundance of love in my life. Whether single or with a partner, realizing that we are truly abundant, especially in the areas we felt lack in, is vital in manifesting our goals. It helps us to detach and let go of neediness. In allowing myself to feel how loved and appreciated I was by my family and close friends first, I also realized that I was feeling the most powerful flow of love when I focused on the love that I felt for myself and others. This is a true paradigm shift for most of us: Love is not something we Get from others and then Feel it. It is always there to feel and share. It is our Very Nature! Being single or feeling disconnected from your partner does not mean we cannot experience love. Telling ourselves this lie will however limit us in feeling it. It is only in opening our heart to ourselves first and allowing us to FEEL that we already ARE the very love we desire (and can therefore never be unworthy of it) that we will release our illusion of lack.

Is there a simple way to feel more self-love?

As a single mum one simple repeated inner question helped me to keep unblocking and nurturing the flow of my self-love.

“Is this (thought, feeling, action) truly honoring myself?”

All self-honoring choices will strengthen our sense of authenticity and dignity and might feel risky and uncomfortable or liberating and exhilarating.

Examples of self-honoring choices include:

- allowing ourselves to feel and express emotions freely without self-censorship

- being honest with ourselves and others about our deepest values and desires

- making choices that value our emotional, physical   and spiritual health

- embracing change and growth in our life

Let's remember and feel the abundance of Love in our Life right now!

6. We feel grateful and Loving:

When we open up to feel all the love in and around us, we naturally begin to feel grateful. Gratitude is the mother of all virtues and one of the fastest ways to attract our desires. It’s not possible for the mind to hold two opposing thoughts at the same time. So whenever we feel grateful for love or act in a loving way towards others we are attracting even more.

Most common mistake: Falling back into habitual patterns of lack

It is easy to feel grateful once and then focus on lack again if that has been our habit up to this point. We can avoid this by introducing simple reminders to create a new habit of regularly feeling grateful. Every morning I would express my love and gratitude to my little daughter and we now do this as a family before every meal. We might ask ourselves: “What could I be grateful for right now?” To whom could I express my appreciation or love today? Let’s feel grateful and loving at any opportunity!

7. We celebrate all expressions of Love:

There I was - a single mother who had started out by feeling desperate for love, and  who was now overflowing with love for herself and others. I experienced increasing love for complete strangers and welled up with tears of joy witnessing different expressions of Love between elderly couples, lovers or children and their parents. Love is our true nature and the highest Gift to ourselves and others. Instead of trying to control it I allowed myself to frequently burst into tears, smile at couples and eventually began to raise funds for a children’s charity. It was exactly when I was free of any need for my twin soul when he showed up out of nowhere. Let’s celebrate love and you will either transform your existing relationship or your other half will join you when you least expect it!

With love and highest regards,

Susanne